So I got my first "Aha'gasm" (a term coined on this show;) this morning
before getting out of bed while contemplating the fact that it took
Oprah two days to answer "Who am I?". Thoughts started coming to me
quickly with my own answers. It was super early but I was excited; I jumped up and started effortlessly handwriting 15 pages of my answer plus lots of
other stuff too into my journal (I never made it to the other questions). It seemed like the whole Chopra/Oprah experience unlocked something in me that had been begging to come out for years. It was like I realized for the first time - without the chains of my self-doubt - that I don't need to hide who I am or what I'm good at any more. I am enough, as is.
Pondering "Who am I?" before now was such a friggin drag. It inevitably came with the pressure of defending the ebbs and flows of my life and career. No wonder I evaded answering the question before! This time, my pen started to flow with what I believe are my character strengths and the kinds of things I've been able to do my whole life without a whole lot of effort. Why this was so hard for me before? I was wearing such dark sunglasses of self-doubt and self-imposed harsh judgement that I couldn't see beyond them.
It occurred to me while I was writing that answering this question might also mean contemplating the kinds of traits that I want to be remembered for once I am gone. The obvious advantage is that I get to write the story of me NOW in a way that really reflects the lighter side of me, not the side that hopes others think I'm some kind of "perfect". Bah! This way of approaching this question gives me way more freedom to be me, and is way more real.
I am so grateful for having the chance
to see that show live - it gave me so much more than I bargained for. No need for further delay, here are the
encourage you to pause after reading each line, don't just rush down the
list. That way, the intensity of each question will really sink in and
get you primed for contemplating each one on a deeper level:
1. Who am I?
2. What do I want?
3. What's my purpose in this life?
4. What sort of contribution do I want to make?
5. What are my unique skills?
6. Who are my heroes?
7. What is a meaningful relationship—what do I expect from one, and what do I give?
What do you think of these questions? Have they ever stumped you or do you feel clear about your life and your mission. Please share - I'd love to know your thoughts!
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